BOND’s 8th Annual Fatherhood & Men’s Conference is coming up on Saturday, June 17 (Father’s Day weekend) in Los Angeles. Stay tuned for details.
Men’s Forum: Jesse talked on his radio show Friday morning about our monthly Men’s Forum the prior evening. Men from around Southern California meet the first Thursday of the month, 7pm at BOND in Los Angeles.
We talk about things going on in our lives, how we see the world and ourselves — young men and old, many Christians, some not. Because the men trust and respect one another, they never repeat anything personal or private shared in meetings. The guys can open up more freely in the intimate atmosphere than in our bigger Church services (video streamed live online) with women and children present.
In the video above, Jesse talks about his biblical question of the week from Romans 8:37, which says that “we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.” Are you more than a conquerer? Unfortunately, many Christians accept the widespread assumption that they can be angry and sin as children of God. Most intellectual Christians and pastors actually spread this false teaching. This deception shuts Christians out of the life God wants for us.
Other things we talked about:
Marriage: At Thursday’s meeting, we discussed marriage and divorce, and the right and wrong ways men treat their wives. Oftentimes, men marry women for shallow reasons. When the relationship sours, they give up on the marriage, and do not deal rightly with the conflict within themselves. Husband and wife develop separate, selfish lives, even if they remain in the same home. Children also suffer in these confusing situations.
America: We also talked about America. We often hear people say that America was built on theft, wrongdoing, and the love of money. Such people develop a ham-fisted judgment against their country, due to seeing and resenting wrongs in their lives. Their resentment skews their perception of the world. What they don’t realize: Everything in life is spiritual. There have always been good and evil people in the country, doing good and evil things. Satan feeds resentful people judgments and lies against the country which prevents them from examining themselves or their world anew in present reality.
Car dealerships: Similarly, some look at all car dealerships as being “out to make a buck” and lie to “suckers.” As a result, some men will not even enter a decent establishment when looking for a car. Being closed off in their minds, they cut off opportunities to find a great deal, or face a challenge in life. Perhaps a good man could show a dishonest dealer how he should treat customers — an act of love. Rather than being “in the world but not of it,” many men disengage from the world and refuse to develop spiritual strength.
Who are you?
Jesse asked each of the guys, “Who are you?” Some said they did not know — one said that because of the way he’s complicated his life, he cannot see himself clearly. Another said he’s a male human being seeking “meaning” to his life, because he believes that’s what God wants for him. Some called themselves children of God. Jesse asked them how they knew that they were children of God. They said they knew because of things they’d done and learned from scripture and from others.
Most Christian men and women learn a false Christianity as children, taught by their intellectual mothers who mean well, but do not know, or live out, what they think they know. Because such well-meaning mothers are of their father the devil, they make the children like them, unknowingly teaching them the things of the devil, falsely imitating the things of God. But we must live by the spirit and not by the intellect.
Jesse urged the men not to engage with any thought that enters their mind about anything, because Satan constantly works to deceive us through ideas, imagination, and judgment about ourselves and others, about God, and even about Biblical things. We often make messes of situations by our error, thinking we know something, believing we are doing the right thing. When you do this you are listening to the lies of your father the devil. But by doubting the darkness of the intellect, we can see by the light of God, and life becomes clear. Then we can know who we are, return to the father, and become children of God.
If you want to understand what went wrong in your own life, Jesse sheds light on what went wrong in the lives of many public figures you may be familiar with — from Barack Obama to Richard Pryor — and how to overcome root problems in your life. Read The Antidote: Healing America from the Poison of Hate, Blame and Victimhood.
Jesse also urges that you pray. You can find his instructions to a simple, silent prayer on our Church page.
We offer private counseling for individuals, couples and families.
Help us help others by donating to BOND. Thank you very much.
Rev. Jesse Lee Peterson will be on “Frances & Friends” TV show with host Frances Swaggart on SonLife Broadcasting (SBN) Network this MONDAY, MARCH 27 from 7-9 a.m. PT / 10-12 Noon ET. Jesse will be on discussing his book, “The Antidote: Healing America From The Poison of Hate, Blame, and Victimhood.” They will be taking calls and emails in the second hour of the show (8-9 a.m. PT / 11-12 Noon ET). You can watch the show here: http://sonlifetv.com
Direct TV Ch 344
Dish Network Ch. 257
Verizon FiOS Ch. 297
AT&T UVerse Ch. 580/1580
Find a station in your city: http://www.sonlifetv.com/localcable.html
Jesse talked on his radio show Friday about BOND monthly Men’s Forum, held the night before, Thursday, March 6th. We’ve had new guys each month, many of whom read Jesse’s articles or see him on YouTube.
We talked about Jesse’s biblical question of last week, asking why Jesus told the people, “Do not worry.”
We also talked with a divorced father whose ex-wife has kept his children from him. Mothers who turn the children from the fathers are narcissistic women, and are fooling themselves, thinking that they love their children. They do not. This man is ready to speak to anyone who can help change the situation facing men in family courts. It used to be that, should a divorce happen, the children went with the father, whom they need after 3 years old. But that has changed.
Jesse urges men not to have sex until marriage. He exaggerates the point to drive it home: Women so often misuse sex to manipulate weak men — and in such relationships there is no love or respect between the two.
Jesse urges everyone to pray. Find his instructions for a silent prayer on our Church page.
If you have not already, please read (and get for a friend) Jesse’s book The Antidote: Healing America from the Poison of Hate, Blame and Victimhood. It explains what goes wrong in the family lives, where often well-meaning mothers and fathers fail their children, with painful, long-lasting consequences. And it offers the solution.
(Watch 5-minute excerpt: ‘Bible-Believers Accuse Jesse Lee of Being ANGRY…’) Jesse talked about his speaking engagement to high schoolers at the Junior State of America (see 21 1/2 minute excerpt). The group has a strong liberal, anti-God bias, so it was wild. Jesse was kicked out early, but some of the students loved Jesse. He had fun with those who hated him.
Jesse also asked the people if they believe in the Bible. Most people do believe in the Bible in some form, and think it helps them, although they continue to have anger and suffer in life. Jesse warns the people to be careful what they believe in, because Satan can feed you interpretations of the Bible. Only believe in God.
Some strongly disagreed with Jesse and attempted to cast him as nonsensical and hypocritical. Jesse allowed them to state their peace, and urged all people to consider things carefully and see for themselves.
We held our monthly Men’s Forum February 9, at 7pm, here at BOND. Jesse reported about it the next morning on his radio show. Jesse remarked that many young men are truly seeking the truth, while others are not.
We have a growing number of enthusiastic newcomers each month. Some who’ve been attending Church and Men’s Forums for a while now have become devoted regulars, and bring new guys themselves.
One black 25-year-old guy first saw Jesse on a Church video, which his uncle showed him during their Bible study. He then watched a hundred videos on our YouTube channel! When he knew Jesse was real, he took the trek out here. He discussed with everyone a little about his life, and it was amazing.
A street preacher joined us. Another young man brought a couple of new guys from San Diego. One man is getting married soon, and we all congratulated him (although one guy had a funny reaction, “Whoa!”).
Guys talked about relationships, family issues, resentment, and moral dilemmas. People stayed for quite a while after we wrapped up to talk.
In the video, Jesse also mentioned our recent Church service, “Was Jesus ANGRY?” (Feb 5, ’17), to make the point that there is no peace in anger, although many Christians defend anger as okay to have. Jesse has welcomed conversations about this, questions and disagreements, on his radio show as well as at church. If you have questions, comments or disagreements, we hope you’ll talk with Jesse in these formats, for everyone’s benefit.
To the men, we hope you’ll join us for the upcoming Men’s Forum very soon.
To all people, if you support what we’re about, please donate, and tell others about Jesse’s work through BOND. If you haven’t already, do buy, read, and review The Antidote: Healing America from the Poison of Hate, Blame and Victimhood.
(Watch 4 1/2 minute excerpt: ‘Why Living Life Without a Plan Is Better Than Planning’) We talked about this past week’s biblical question: What did Jesus mean when he said, “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” One man realized he didn’t know the answer but ideas about it kept coming to mind.
Jesse said that God is your teacher. Revelation is different from thinking and learning knowledge.
Jesse told a story of how he forgot he was holding his wallet, and Satan fed his mind ideas of how he lost it. One person related to that story, and told how she put her glasses on her head and thought she lost them.
Jesse told of how he started BOND 27 years ago, without any plan. He realized that anger held black people back, and not “racism.” Things unfolded from a single meeting turning into two, three. He formed the organization BOND. He spoke at schools, started a radio show and the BOND home. He was hated and banned by worldly people who support lies such as homosexuality and “racism,” but he kept with the truth.
Jesse explained to one person that anger is easy to overcome: Do not overreact to the thoughts and feelings that come when they rise.
On Wednesday, November 16, 2016, in the third hour of his radio show, Jesse interviewed Marine Corps veteran Bryan Carpenter, author of “Never-Ending Battle After Iraq: A Marine’s Road to Recovery” (BattleAfterIraq.com).
In the interview, Bryan described being injured by IED’s (roadside bombs). He talked about Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), coping strategies, his demons, his “good conscience” and “bad conscience,” isolation, anger, aggression, dealing with civilians as a veteran, and thinking everyone is against him, including his parents who do not seem to respect him, but treat him like a little kid. When he feels disrespected or a violation of integrity, he goes into drill instructor mode.
Bryan turns 31 in January and would like to have a wife and kids, but he can’t keep a normal relationship or get close to anyone. His younger brother is the only one he feels he has in the world who really understands him, though he feels hopeless, helpless and lonely, like he’ll die alone.
Jesse offered him counseling with no charge, out of appreciation for his sacrifice for the country. Jesse told him about his recorded silent prayer instructions (findable via BOND Church page). He practices and coaches mixed martial arts (MMA), does security and other things. He used to be happy-go-lucky, passive early in life, then assertive as he went into the Marines, but now he’s totally changed and easily angered.
Bryan is a Christian. He saw God when he went into a coma after the second bomb hit him. He asked God why he was not being accepted into heaven. He feels his purpose is to help others, including coaching for free at his MMA gym.
BOND Men’s Forum
Jesse has talked with a number of people suffering from PTSD recently, including at our November Men’s Forum. We have had a number of new guys coming from San Diego, Las Vegas and elsewhere. One of these guys was also a veteran dealing with PTSD and anger. He too practices MMA. He’s in a very similar situation to Bryan’s — he used to be funny and light-hearted, but now he’s angry.
A doctor with PTSD
On Tuesday, December 13, 2016, in the first hour on his radio show, Jesse talked to a family physician who helps veterans and their loved ones dealing with PTSD. Watch the YouTube video linked: You Can Be Healed from PTSD: “A Tour of Duty” by Michael R. Butner, MD, Military Family Physician. It turned out he too is affected by PTSD.
Jesse Lee Peterson led BOND’s final monthly Men’s Forum for 2016 on Thursday, December 1. Guys showed up from as far as San Diego. Attendees ranged in age from 24 to 60, but everybody related in the discussion. It was both humorous and serious.
A few guys took turns standing before the others to tell what was going on in their lives. Jesse talked about the Men’s Forum (in the posted video above) on his radio show the following day.
Stuck in a Rut?
One man described issues with alcohol and drug abuse, even facing time in jail. He’s talented and successful in his pursuits but got into a funk. Another man started his own business but faces problems of discipline and procrastination. The guys told him to learn to love everything he needs to do.
Sometimes our problem is not “laziness” but a lack of love for God, for what’s right. One guy reminded a struggling man at the meeting, “Seek first the kingdom, and all will be added.”
Do Not Shrink from Challenge
A newcomer quit a good-paying job with a big company because the stress brought out the worst in him. He became rude toward people over small things. One man told him that, although he quit this job, the same situation will arise for him again. Jesse told him that next time he should face the pain; these situations are opportunities to see his character flaws and grow.
When you miss an opportunity or fail a test in life, do not regret it. Be grateful, and another chance to overcome your issues will appear.
The Right to Reject Wisdom and Suffer
One man was on the verge of being kicked out of the house he lived in. Although he had little money, he got into a legal fight over the issue, rather than taking his money and moving to a place with job options.
Because someone was rude to him, he was obsessed with sticking it to that person, to the point that he lost sleep, was stressed and visibly angry. He knows friends who may help him monetarily.
Everyone urged him to leave the situation, that he was wrong. But he was intent on doing it his way. Although he will suffer for this, he has the right to make mistakes in life, and we do not have the right to hold it against him.
Jesse asked the guys what they thought Jesus meant when he said, “Do not let your left hand know what the right is doing” (see: Matthew 6:2-4). Some had never heard the passage before. Those familiar with the verse believed it meant that we should not “show off” when we give to the poor, but that we should give in secret.
One guy was very tempted all week to call-in to Jesse’s radio show to tell him what he believed it meant. But he knew his thoughts were deceiving him. Jesse noticed that all of us who answered had the same answer. He said that should raise a red flag, since the truth requires wisdom. The right answer is different from what “everybody else” says.
Jesse planned to talk about what Christ meant by this at Church on Sunday, December 4.
Jesse said on his radio show that this type of brotherhood we all shared at the Men’s Forum is what is meant by his organization name, The Brotherhood Organization of a New Destiny — BOND.
Sex is one of the last issues men must overcome. Here’s why it’s such a problem, and how to get past it:
Examples of Men and Boys Destroying Their Lives with Sex
Former New York Congressman Anthony Weiner suffered yet another disgrace in his third or so “sexting” scandal in recent years. A woman told the New York Post that Weiner sent her compromising photos a year ago, including one “selfie” showing his body with his shirt off, wearing only underwear, as his son lay in bed next to him.
Weiner also shamed his wife and family. Huma Abedin separated him after repeated scandals.
In the 1990s, President Bill Clinton cheated on his wife — in the White House!
Jesse Lee Peterson talked in Church and on his on his radio show (same video appears below) about horrifying news stories of black young men: One teen raped his own grandmother repeatedly as she slept; another man raped his own three-week-old daughter.
None of these people wanted to commit these ugly sexual acts. Something drove them to it.
What Drives Men Into Sex, Pornography, and Using Women
Young guys tell Jesse they “like” sex — that it “feels good.” Jesse asks why they feel bad. They cannot answer.
Jesse realized that men and boys get into sex because they’re looking for love. They resent their mothers and grandmothers. Because of this underlying anger, they are controlled by women. They seek women out for imitation “love” through “sex.” But women do not have the real love they need.
Men and women, boys and girls, have been separated from their fathers. Real love comes through connecting to your father. Fathers receive love from Christ, and pass it on to wife and children. When you do not love your father, you have no love from God.
How to Overcome Addiction to Sex, Pornography, and Using Women
You must forgive your mothers and grandmothers. Women, tell men that they should forgive. Men, do not have sex outside marriage. Rather, pay attention to yourself, reconnect with your father, and let go of resentment and excitement so that you can see clearly how to live and treat others.
Watch and listen to Jesse speak on his radio show about men and sex in the posted YouTube video.