2026: Be a doormat. Romans 8: 2 – the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death. 

Church with Jesse Lee Peterson, Sunday, January 4, 2026 

• 📝 Assignment for 2026: Be a doormat. 
• ⏳ Theme for 2026: Endurance 
• 📖 NEW Biblical Question: What’s the difference between animal nature and human nature? 
• 🗓️ We’re back on the radio show schedule! Hope you had a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

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TIMESTAMPS 

• (0:00:00) – 00 – Small talk / Welcome 
• (0:03:25) – 1A – Doormat “in love” again 
• (0:07:52) – 1B – Have your kids seen black people? 
• (0:10:42) – 1C – “Disrespect.” Landlord 
• (0:13:34) – 1D – Beta? Doormat or slave. “Little boy.” Road rage 
• (0:17:30) – 1E – I winced at the word. Sister didn’t ask me. Sister mad all day. 
• (0:22:31) – 1F – I’m NOT gonna be a doormat. 
• (0:23:52) – 1G – Coworker name-calling. JLP: Manager’s horror stories 
• (0:28:47) – 1H – When do you speak up? 
• (0:30:11) – 1I – Husband-wife: She held her tongue! 
• (0:31:22) – 1J – I don’t appreciate that word at all. 
• (0:33:17) – 1K – Hake: Right and wrong way to be a doormat 
• (0:34:49) – 2A – Doormat husband: People-pleaser 
• (0:41:52) – 2B – Wife: Hot in here. Stop reacting. Destroying the children. 
• (0:49:15) – 2C – I yelled at him two and a half hours straight 
• (0:52:01) – 3A – Forgave mother, but I still hate and don’t respect women 
• (0:58:36) – 3B – He calls his mother “Cathy”?! 
• (1:00:02) – 3C – As a woman…? 
• (1:03:05) – 3D – Feedback: Identifying… drop it. 
• (1:06:31) – 3E – You marry your mother. “You stupid [Bible]!” 
• (1:09:14) – 3F – JLP: It’s not you. It’s totally ego. Take the pain. “I thought…” 
• (1:12:45) – 4A – Romans 8: 2… Derrick a doormat? 
• (1:14:37) – 4B – JLP: Conditioned. Lied-to. Christ freed us. 
• (1:19:44) – 4C – Being born again: Love one another. 
• (1:23:11) – 4D – Why they hated him: They know not what they do. 
• (1:29:37) – 4E – Relapse into vices that come back. Being aware, you see thoughts. 
• (1:33:15) – 4F – Not doing the Silent Prayer: Practice being present. 
• (1:35:04) – 4G – Feedback: Complaining. Assignments. Being a doormat. No expectation. 
• (1:37:04) – 4H – Never think you’re awake! 
• (1:40:10) – 5A – JLP on the Bible and time alone. Last feedback… 
• (1:47:51) – 5B – JLP: Pick up your cross. Stop thinking about relationships! 
• (1:50:09) – 5C – No hope in any relationship not from God 
• (1:51:09) – 06 – Couple’s thoughts? No worry or doubt in love. 
• (1:54:55) – 07 – JLP: Not a sinner. New theme: Endurance 

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CHURCH NOTES 1/4/26 

🗓️ We’re back on the radio show schedule! Hope you had a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! 

⏳ Theme for 2026: Endurance 

📝 Assignment for 2026: Be a doormat. 

📖 NEW Biblical Question: What’s the difference between animal nature and human nature? 

Romans 8: 2 – For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death. – Romans 8:1-3 KJV – There is therefore now no condemnation – Bible Gateway 

00 – Small Talk / Welcome 

(0:00:00) – Start (0:00:35) Small talk (0:01:53) Welcome (0:02:35) New Year 

1A – Doormat “In Love” Again. 

(0:03:25) – Shayan reminisces about a Jesus movie, “My heart is ready, father.” 

(0:05:49) He has a new crush on a new woman. (0:06:39) The eyes, chico, they don’t lie. -Scarface — Mess. Bear the cross till it dies. Stay with it. 

(0:07:08) Did you become a doormat? 

1B – Doormat: Have your kids seen black people? 

(0:07:52) – Colin: It’s a practice to be a doormat. My ego felt insulted. Pride. Retail shops, kids: Doormat. 

(0:09:30) Have your kids ever seen black people? They live in the hood with their mother. Daughter: Why you so black? “Your mama!” Maybe they haven’t seen black people! 

1C – “Disrespect.” Landlord. 

(0:10:42) – Another man grew up among gang members… “Disrespect.” I put my dog on a leash and didn’t react. 

(0:12:43) – Anchor Baby: Window leaking… Landlord said don’t be rough with your window. I’m so gentle now. I’m kind of rough. 

1D – Beta? Doormat or slave. “Little boy.” On the road. 

(0:13:34) – JLP on email: Doormat is beta? Asian man: You’re either a doormat or a slave, living a reactionary life. Everyone controls you. 

(0:15:28) Drinking game: Person called me a little boy, just joking. 

(0:16:32) – Doug on the road. “Cmon, dumb-dumb.” 

1E – I winced at the word. Sister didn’t ask me! Sister mad all day. 

(0:17:30) – Donyale, I winced, I grapple. I can’t see you being a doormat! Sitting through the hell… Agree with friend who sent email (about “beta”)… Women “leading.” Conflicted. Maybe it’s the word that’s bothering me. 

(0:19:39) – Marissa (?) my sister didn’t ask me, coming to pick me up. I did wanna go anyway. 

(0:21:11) – Alissa (sp) people picking a fight with me at the mall — they knew me from my job. I wasn’t mad. They fought with my sister, because she was giving them the reaction, and was upset at the situation the whole day. 

1F – I’m NOT gonna be a doormat. 

(0:22:31) – He had trouble with the word “doormat.” I’ve been a doormat my whole life. I like the word “unbothered” better. Jesus was not a doormat, but a warrior, says this man. He was the opposite of a doormat. This year, I’m NOT gonna be a doormat. 

1G – Coworker name-calling. Manager. 

(0:23:52) – Another man, manager of coworker: “Stop being idle.” Name-calling. I don’t like being called a “stupid dumb-a—.” Maybe it’s wrong not to like that. Told higher-ups. 

(0:26:06) – JLP: Friend promoted to management, very emotional, unsure how to handle people. (0:26:45) Not allowing bosses to correct employees. Certain things you can’t say, says Doug. Document, document, document. Be a doormat. Don’t get mad! 

1H – When do you speak up? 

(0:28:47) – Shayan’s question again? Be a doormat and stay present. It’ll always work out. Speaking up without resenting: When do you speak up? (0:29:27) Colin… 

1I – Husband-wife situations… 

(0:30:11) – Lady was mad at her husband, because they were late. It’s your fault we’re late! I stayed silent which was not like me at all. “That’s a start,” says Jesse. Husband very proud of her. Surprised and grateful. 

1J – I don’t appreciate that word at all. 

(0:31:22) – Donyale, It’s just the word. Husband criticism. None of your business! Don’t side with him, Jesse! (funny) 

(0:32:36) I don’t appreciate that word at all. I stand behind it. (0:32:55) Colin: It’s enabling and worshiping of women. 

1K – Hake: Right and wrong way to be a doormat 

(0:33:17) – Hake explains. 

2A – Doormat husband: People-pleaser 

(0:34:49) – He’s the bad kind of doormat. … I just deal with her hatred … (0:36:06) “because I love her, but you’re gonna say it’s because I hate her… for peace.” But you don’t have any peace! At times, I do. Were you drunk? If it were only that easy! … Forgive your mother? Starts almost to break down seemingly… Married to your mama! Very strange thought. (0:38:30) We’re looking at each other. (0:38:58) How will God forgive you? … 

(0:39:33) Wife told me not to spend money. Part of keeping the peace. Anger and hatred in the home. Making it worse. Children? Yes. (0:40:13) 11, 12, 18. How will your kids survive with you being so weak? Doing OK? Not. They could do better. They’re suffering. (0:40:57) Looking at each other again. 

(0:41:12) What would happen if you stood up to her? Argument. Don’t argue! (0:41:36) 50! Wow! 

2B – Wife: Hot in here. Stop reacting. Destroying the children. 

(0:41:52) – Getting hot in here! … Forgive your mother, man. … Married 13 years. (0:44:32) You knew I was like this! 

(0:44:47) What you gonna do? Overcome my anger. JLP: You gotta just stop reacting. Be a doormat all the way, so you can overcome this. 

(0:45:33) I see it coming out of them, the kids. You do nothing about it, huh? Just take it… Destroying your children. 

(0:47:50) Is she gonna yell at you in the car? Does she make you cry? “I’m not a crier.” Forgive, do the Silent Prayer… (0:48:44) How do you feel? Everybody judging you. 

2C – I yelled at him two and a half hours straight 

(0:49:15) – Wife: Hearing him say he’ll forgive his mother makes me think our household is gonna be so wonderful. It’s just your ego, this morning, she remembers. I spent two and a half hours yelling at him. 

(0:50:23) JLP: Stop judging him. You knew he was weak. Are the children in counseling already? One is. “A mom protects her children.” It’s all ego. Apologize. And stop. 

3A – Forgave mother, but I still hate and don’t respect women 

(0:52:01) – Colin: Forgiving my mother didn’t change my relationship to women. Anything to say? Spent last week with my mother. Same relationship with her as with all women. Some things have changed. No longer lover boy — I know that’s not the answer to my life. But I have that same hatred for mother, and women in general, I think. 

(0:53:17) Alex answers… (0:54:02) Intellectually I know. Does your mother know you hate her? A total lack of respect. (0:54:58) I hope she’s not watching. Anything she says, I don’t value it. 

(0:55:16) Anchor Baby, see they’re lost… (0:55:51) Doug, “Hitler,” thinking this way your whole life. Now you know how to be aware of them and watch them? (0:56:32) Colin: A spirit inside of me. 

(0:57:00) Marissa: Don’t see anything interesting? Colin: Probably … (0:57:37) Why don’t you guide those conversations? 

3B – He calls his mother by her first name?! 

(0:58:36) – He calls his mother “Cathy” (sp). (0:59:42) I do lead the convo… 

3C – As a woman…? 

(1:00:02) – As a woman, we can’t help ourselves? What do you mean? 

(1:01:34) – What about this couple? “She’s trying to survive.” Taking the lead because he won’t! 

3D – Feedback: Identifying… drop it. 

(1:03:05) – Alyssa (sp) who are you who hates her so much? Who are you? Colin: A spirit inside of me that hates. Why do you call it you? Why isn’t that spirit leaving me? (1:03:46) You’re still identifying with it. 

(1:04:20) Doug: I don’t value people’s opinion, but are you overthinking it? Feel that hatred. (1:04:54) The world of women. I don’t value women? So? 

(1:05:31) Man: Regarding this woman thing, you just have to drop it. 

3E – You marry your mother. “You stupid b—” 

(1:06:31) – Colin: You said you marry your mother. I see it clearly with my ex-wife and my mother. Spirit is the same. 

(1:07:25) Donyale… 

3F – JLP: It’s not you. It’s totally ego. Take the pain. “I thought…” 

(1:09:14) – JLP: You think it’s you. Don’t respond to it. Don’t even say, I hate my mother. (1:10:00) Don’t respect, don’t value… How do you value someone? 

(1:10:36) I don’t think I hate my mother. But you still identify with the feeling. Take the pain and do nothing about it. 

(1:11:13) I thought it would go away… YOU THOUGHT… (1:12:17) Anyone with anger has fear. “I wanna be free.” Stop identifying with it. 

4A – Romans 8: 2… Derrick 

(1:12:45) – Who has a Bible? Romans 8: 2 (1:13:24) Hake reads it. 

Romans 8:2 – For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death. – Romans 8:1-3 KJV – There is therefore now no condemnation – Bible Gateway 

(1:13:44) Derrick a doormat? … 

4B – JLP: Conditioned. Lied-to. Christ freed us. 

(1:14:37) – JLP: We’ve all been conditioned. Lied-to. We believe thoughts about condition — controlled by emotions of reactions. Your actions, thoughts, condition, keeping you in hell. God’s nature is none of those things. 

(1:15:53) JLP: You cannot be a doormat when you know who you are. You’re only a doormat because you don’t know who you are. Because it’s based on what you think, how you feel, and your actions. God sent his Son and freed us. (Romans 8: 2 reference) — Pick up your cross, and follow me. Stop defending it. No one there to defend. Defending an illusion. … You’ve been judging. 

(1:17:59) You’re not a sinner. You’re just told that. “A sinner who needs to be saved.” Christ said all your sins have been wiped away. Sons and daughters of God. Overcoming an illusion. The sin is in the mind. (1:18:46) When a man looks at a woman and lusts after her, he’s already sinned — in the mind! 

4C – Being born again: Love one another. 

(1:19:44) – How you be born again? Confess with your mouth… Christ never said that! How you enter into the Kingdom: Keep my commandments. Love me, love your neighbor, pick up your cross… 

(1:20:41) The real you is of love, not of hate. The false you is of hate, and causes you to judge other people. 

(1:22:31) Paul and John said that — Christ never said it. He only went to the cross because they hated him. 

4D – Why they hated him: They know not what they do. 

(1:23:11) – The Jews hated Christ… They were waiting for a Son. They didn’t like losing that control. 

(1:23:45) Forgive them, for they know not what they do. They can’t see. Christ loved everybody. Satan had their mind. Christ came to save us from our mind, our thoughts. Change the way we think. He knew the people were possessed by evil. All thoughts, all lies… They don’t want you to stay present. 

(1:24:49) In your thoughts, you’re divided. 

(1:26:01) Slave to thoughts, reactions. Stop reacting. Be a doormat. Don’t react to them treating the ego the way they’re treating the ego. It’s not happening to you. It’s just a thought. You’re free, but you’ve got to stop thinking. 

(1:26:41) When you stop thinking, life will happen by itself. Your life is perfectly laid out. Christ said be perfect. 

(1:27:11) Never done anything wrong. Stop identifying. You’ve been brainwashed. 

(1:28:19) You love by not hating. They just can’t see, you will realize. You’re free, but you’ve got to stop it. 

(1:28:48) We’re going all the way. Don’t give up. (1:29:21) Your nature is not yours. 

4E – Relapse into vices that come back. Being aware, you see thoughts. 

(1:29:37) – Question? Not identifying with thoughts. Any vice… (1:30:12) Relapse. (1:30:32) JLP: They come back because you’re not conscious of them at all times. 

(1:31:22) Being aware, see thoughts. We can’t see thoughts on our own, says Jesse. 

4F – Not doing the Silent Prayer: Practice being present. 

(1:33:15) – Not doing the Silent Prayer… 

4G – Feedback: Complaining. Assignments. Being a doormat. No expectation. 

(1:35:04) – Andrew: I treat this like a 24/7 job. Rather than complain, I do what’s in front of me. I used to complain at my job early on in life. If you complain, that’s not you complaining. 

(1:36:18) The assignments … grab hold of them, and remember to stay present. 

4H – Never think you’re awake! 

(1:37:04) – Another man: When I practice it… Being a doormat, not about “disrespecting me.” I’m in a battle with a spirit inside of me. 

Romans 8:2 – For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death. – Romans 8:1-3 KJV – There is therefore now no condemnation – Bible Gateway 

(1:38:19) JLP: Have no expectation! Let everything go! The man continues… Came last year for the first time. “I thought I was so awake.” That means you’re asleep! 

5A – JLP on the Bible and time alone. Last feedback… 

(1:40:10) – JLP closing … the Bible … Being alone. (1:42:44) … 

(1:43:33) Just hearing you out. You’ve been spitting facts for the last like hour. 

(1:44:08) When did you become a sinner? (1:44:44) Your Father and you will become one. 

(1:45:06) Bible version? 

(1:45:48) Man: Thank you. He talks about the feelings in the body and hatred of mother. 

5B – JLP: Pick up your cross. Stop thinking about relationships! 

(1:47:51) – JLP … pick up your cross… 

(1:48:42) Stop thinking about women! God knows about relationships! He will give you one, and it’ll be perfect, if He wants you to have one. 

5C – No hope in any relationship not from God 

(1:50:09) – If you get into a relationship that was not from God, is there any hope? No. (1:50:59) So you gotta drop her. 

06 – Couple’s thoughts? No worry or doubt in love. 

(1:51:09) – Back to the couple. Thoughts? “His burden is light.” (1:52:17) JLP: In him, there’s no worries, or doubts. It’s from ego. In him is love. Everything is fine. Healing. 

(1:53:20) Forgive your mother Tuesday, and don’t tell your wife. You can spend money for lunch. Scared? 

(1:53:50) – The wife scared for him, worried about his mom’s reaction. What gives you the right to worry? Why you doing it? … She stayed home yesterday despite thoughts. 

07 – JLP: Not a sinner. New theme: Endurance 

(1:54:55) – JLP: God never called you a sinner. Don’t be afraid to say, I’m not a sinner. (1:55:30) Give them the finger, meaning don’t hate them. They cannot help it. Forgive those who’ve done you wrong, and what you’ve done others. 

(1:55:53) Theme: Endurance. 

(1:58:00) JLP speaks more… (1:59:24) Take names and kick… 

REMINDERS / Assignments… 

1. 2026 theme: Endurance
2. 2026 assignment: Be a doormat. (Church 11/28/25) 
3. 2025 theme/assignment: Practice being present. 
4. Catch the first thought. (Church 11/14/25) 
5. Give up. (Church 11/9/25, after stream) 
6. Take the pain. Stop fighting darkness. Go through the war. (Church 11/2/25 “This week…”) 
7. Let it pass through you, whatever you feel and think. (Church 10/19/25) 
8. Slow down. Feel the pain, and ask: Is it necessary? (Women’s Forum Oct 16, 2025) 
9. Never think about yourself again. (for 1 wk/mo, BQ/Women’s Forum Sep 18-21, 2025) 
10. Don’t overreact to your anger this weekend (JLP show Fri 8/29/25) 
11. Be nothing for three days. And on the third day, see if you rise. (Fri, July 25, 2025) 
12. Communicate with few words. (June 29, 2025, didn’t mention) 
13. Don’t agree or disagree with anyone. And see what happens. (June 2025) 
14. Quietly live with the hell in you (May/June 2025) 
15. Write down all the stabs you get (May 11-18, 2025) 
16. Be a single-minded person, not a double-minded person. (BQ/Women’s Forum Apr 13-27, 2025) 
17. Don’t judge with words, looks/eyes, gestures, emotions, or thoughts. (Oct 2024) 

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